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basildestinyBah, I haven't been feeling it lately. And I've been avoiding the community because I knew it would just makes things worse. I want to lose more weight before seriously trying.
I'd always thought, when I was younger, that I would be married by 20 and have kids by 24. That was my goal. Things changed, life got complicated, such as it is. And my goals weren't met. I'm turning 27 later this month! I'm three years from 30. I was hoping to have a little one by now.
But I have health concerns. I don't want to have complications or gestational diabetes or eclampsia if it is something I can prevent. We aren't preventing. We don't believe in birth control. Not because we're Catholic, but for the abortifacient effects it could possibly have. It might not even happen every pregnancy, but I'm not going to find myself standing before God the Father, Creator of the universe, with The Son, my Savior, standing at his side, and say "I didn't think it would be abortive every time!" What kind of excuse is that? It is one thing not to know. Or to be unable to research the effects, but I know so I can't do it.
As an aside, before we got married, everyone was saying we were going to have so many kids. And that we weren't ready. And urged us to use some kind of birth control. Or made fun of us for being willing to have 8 kids. Or urged us to consider the health risks for having children one after the other. And yet, we haven't had a child yet. Not even concieved yet.
But I'm feeling clucky. Maybe its because it is spring. Maybe I'm feeling more active with this weight loss.
I really want to buy those Baby Rock Records! They are so cute. I can see myself buying all of them! At some point.
And I want to shop for baby clothes. I want to be able to tell people that I'm married now and I have a child. I want to be able to give my parents and my inlaws a grandbaby.
It's just not always about what I want though. I need to go back to work for another year. And I need to lose more weight.
But I'm not discounting God's intercession!
~Bas
I'd always thought, when I was younger, that I would be married by 20 and have kids by 24. That was my goal. Things changed, life got complicated, such as it is. And my goals weren't met. I'm turning 27 later this month! I'm three years from 30. I was hoping to have a little one by now.
But I have health concerns. I don't want to have complications or gestational diabetes or eclampsia if it is something I can prevent. We aren't preventing. We don't believe in birth control. Not because we're Catholic, but for the abortifacient effects it could possibly have. It might not even happen every pregnancy, but I'm not going to find myself standing before God the Father, Creator of the universe, with The Son, my Savior, standing at his side, and say "I didn't think it would be abortive every time!" What kind of excuse is that? It is one thing not to know. Or to be unable to research the effects, but I know so I can't do it.
As an aside, before we got married, everyone was saying we were going to have so many kids. And that we weren't ready. And urged us to use some kind of birth control. Or made fun of us for being willing to have 8 kids. Or urged us to consider the health risks for having children one after the other. And yet, we haven't had a child yet. Not even concieved yet.
But I'm feeling clucky. Maybe its because it is spring. Maybe I'm feeling more active with this weight loss.
I really want to buy those Baby Rock Records! They are so cute. I can see myself buying all of them! At some point.
And I want to shop for baby clothes. I want to be able to tell people that I'm married now and I have a child. I want to be able to give my parents and my inlaws a grandbaby.
It's just not always about what I want though. I need to go back to work for another year. And I need to lose more weight.
But I'm not discounting God's intercession!
~Bas
