I came across a fallen tree

[basildestiny]

I signed up with Match.com and eharmony.com to try to get out there and find someone easier than just trying to find someone by accident. But I've come to the realization that as much as I try to avoid saying I am one type of person in the chance that I don't really meet the standards--I really am an alterna-chick. The definition of the word not the stereotyped, has to wear a certain outfit, or hang with a certain crowd. I'm not Avril Lavigne's little stereotype. Nope. But I don't think the way some of the other gals think and I don't dress the way they dress--even when I have a body that would look good in those outfits. And I'm going to stop worrying about finding someone. I just freaked out a little this week. I figured I might. It was mild, but just one of those things where I wanted to find someone to talk to. And those bands who speak to me, continue to speak to me and speak to me for the same reasons. I'm ecclectic with my music as I'll ever be and I can listen to nearly everything. But those alternative bands that spoke to me ages ago, still do. Just a little realization I've reached. Which is a good realization. I'm not alone. So many artists speak to me, there definitely are folks out there like me.

Screw the labels!
~Bas

Comments

[basildestiny]

I got about 8 matches on eharmony. They were all 6-8 years older than me. It wasn't worth paying $60.

[waking-epiphany.livejournal.com]

Good for you, Bas. It seemed like you were settling before, and you don't deserve to settle. You are awesome and deserve an awesome person to be with.

[basildestiny]

I wouldn't settle. I was just waiting for something to make me move along. But I already had moved forward and didn't even know it.

[waking-epiphany.livejournal.com]

And isn't that they best way for it to happen? Wake up one day and realize things seem better, with just the passage of a little time.

I want to see your pages on match.com and eharmony!! Can I leave testimony on them on how awesome you are? I'll do it. But in a less embarrassing and weird way than my normal comments.

[basildestiny]

Awww! Aren't you adorable? I deleted my eharmony profile. Maybe I'll start it back up when I'm older or have $60 (more desperate) lol

My match.com profile is under basdestiny

[coachvee.livejournal.com]

I hardly ever post in your journals, Bas, but do know I read them.. I just never know what to say that wouldn't sound thick. And I wanna say that what you said there definitely struck a chord with me. I would never consider myself "alternative", but I feel like I am more "myself" than I used to be a few years ago, when I was putting out all sorts of odd images of myself and trying to find out who I was.

so yep. You're not alone!

[basildestiny]

Same for me. I read everyone's journals, I just don't have something insightful say to all of them.

I've never been one for images at all. Partly because I refuse to be restricted by some stereotype someone has built and partly because I'm not a poser. I don't want to be in a particular group so I'm not to say I am and then get rejected by the group for not meeting the criteria.

But honestly I am the definition of an alternative girl. I'm not an out of the box goth girl or punk chick or pop girl. I'm an alternative girl. I'm finally starting to believe some of the compliments and comments I've received.

And you should be yourself! Glad to have you around. Being lonely is no fun.

[spaghetti-os.livejournal.com]

I met Chris on Match.com! He was on it for 2 years, I was on it for 2 weeks, and now we can't wait to get married. I'd recommend Match.com to anyone.

[basildestiny]

You are totally the reason that I signed back up on it. I really like match.com, but I'm not really the ideal picture of what folks are looking for on there. All of the personalities that matched up to mine or who seemed compatible were interested in a different body than mine. So I figure I'll take some time to get back into shape as I've been trying the whole summer as well as save some money and then I'll be set.

[coachvee.livejournal.com]

I've certainly never thought I was a particular "thing".. except maybe a nerd.. lol.

I'm finally starting to believe some of the compliments and comments I've received

I feel EXACTLY the same way. It's only recently I'm believing people when they think I'm a decent person. Most times I just don't believe them.

[coachvee.livejournal.com]

*gape* It's Ro!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I haven't seen you in about eighty million years! XD how've you been?!

[spaghetti-os.livejournal.com]

Great!!!! Except school sucks!!! How about you!?