Friday, August 3rd, 2012

What's in a name?

Friday, August 3rd, 2012 01:42 am
basildestiny: (Default)
I have a very elementary viewpoint of friendship. If we are friends on any sort of social network, it means that we are actually friends. I can trust you to have the integrity to believe in who I am as a person instead of believing some stereotype that you'd heard or read or assumed. You believe I am a better person than that. If you are uncertain based on a post, you will question me, politely and with dignity, for clarification. Obviously there are some huge holes in my logic. And due to my naivete, I've been on the receiving end of lessons learned the hard way one too many times now.

So, I'm not getting on my high horse here. I just want a chance to weigh in. I hear so many of my peers saying "That's why I don't talk about religion or politics." And I get it, I do get it. I just wonder if it applies to a personal journal. Maybe not the best topic for dinner at your new boyfriend's house the first time you're invited over. Maybe not the best conversation with random strangers while in a hospital waiting room. Maybe not the best topic while on a working lunch with your boss. And maybe those are all good times. Why are we so afraid of civil discourse? I get that it's not always civil, but discourse is a good thing. We should know both sides, right? I never participated in debate. To be honest, I've never been that good at it. Too emotional. But I'm learning now.

And I really feel an obligation to post on these sorts of topics. My reasons are several. First of all, I have opinions and I want to share them. I feel I have a unique perspective. I started my twenties as a bleeding heart liberal. Socialism was an excellent idea. Why not share amongst us all? Unfortunately for the liberal inside, I met someone who challenged me on all of my beliefs and answered my why nots. I had been living under the assumption that there were no thinking conservatives. There couldn't be because liberals wanted what everyone wanted. They represented the people while conservatives represented Big Business and Old Traditions. I was so smitten with these stereotypes. So when I met someone who challenged me and pushed me to find the answers, I wanted to share those answers with the people I cared about the most. Turns out that a lot of those friends only wanted to be friends if we could agree. The simple fact that I didn't count myself as a liberal anymore was enough, without even hearing a single argument.

I'm hoping for a chance to be heard without automatically being labeled a bigot or being told by someone I respected as a friend and peer to get off my high horse. I fear that we have become extremists. Just because someone is not for something does not make them a hater of that thing. I am tired of being quiet and being counted as one in agreement or one defeated by this extremism.

I'm not racist. I'm not violent. I'm just no longer silent. I won't have my voice usurped any longer.

I'm not directing this entry at anyone at all on livejournal. I feel that I can have a civil discourse with everyone here without it becoming a personal attack. We can agree to disagree while educating each other at the same time. I'll understand; however, if someone doesn't feel that way. As I said above, I've been wrong in the past.

~Basil D

Movies & Morals

Friday, August 3rd, 2012 02:10 am
basildestiny: (Squall)

I'm back. A lot of people left livejournal for other sites. I considered leaving blogging altogether. But I find that journaling has always been an important part of my life. I used to keep diaries and then journals. I need to organize my thoughts. I need some quiet, down time every little while to just sift through it all and remember the important events. Even comment on a few of them.

So in the meantime since my last entry, my twins were born. I'm not going to go back over the four months since their arrival in a day by day, event by event rundown. It has been a very trying and tiring road. Even if we're friends on Facebook, rest assured that there is a lot I have not posted even there. I can be, at times, a very private person. The short of it is that my daughter, Isabelle, was very sick. She started retaining water very, very quickly. We went in for a normal check up that ended with me being admitted. I was given steroids to mature their lungs since they were only 32 weeks old. Two days later, I had two babies by C-section. My C-section went very smoothly. Surprisingly so. But 17 weeks later, my daughter is still in the NICU. Most of the problems from birth have been resolved, but she continues to have issues with her lungs. Likely due to having a machine breathe for her for the first almost 8 weeks of her life, she has chronic lung disease. There's a lot of emotion and frustration on this topic which I will hit in another, subsequent entry. My son, Matthew, is home. It took him twice as long as they thought it would for him to come home. But the Monday after Mother's Day at 7.5 weeks old, he came home. There's so much more, but I'm going to save it all for my upcoming NICU post.

Moving along to the meat of this entry! My mom had mentioned a few weeks ago that she'd never seen the Happening. I count this movie as one of the worst movies ever. The delivery of the lines are horrible. It just didn't seem serious. But I noticed something I didn't remember. M Night Shyamalan had Zooey Deschanel's character cheat on her husband. The interesting part was that they only had a dinner and dessert, yet all characters involved knew it was cheating. And it was and is. The movie itself goes off the tracks pretty quickly. I always knew he had a thing for trees after watching The Village because there were so many shots of the "evil" trees. But that one part gave me a greater appreciation for the movie. Now, watch there be some interview in which he mocks the characters for thinking that's cheating.

We did a rewatch of all of the Batman movies. Only the recent ones in the Christian Bale/Christopher Nolan trilogy. And upon watching the Dark Knight, I found it interesting that Joker sets about a scenario that perfectly illustrates why we aren't a pure democracy. The democracy votes and decides 2 to 1 that it is ok to blow up the barge full of criminals. Over on the criminal barge, the same vote has taken place only without the tallies. Yet a representative says no, we don't stand for this. Nothing would get done if we didn't have a leader to direct all these opinions and votes.

~ Basil D

PS I've been pining for an LJ app and been so disappointed that they didn't have one. Oops because they've had one! Thus I'm planning on more entries from me. It's much easier with two babies to turn on my Ipad than turn on my laptop.

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